If you have read the previous post, in this junk drawer of mine, you know I am on a roll with why the world is going to hell in a hand basket. It may not be all about Republicans, but Republicans are leading the way and lining their pockets while people in our country are homeless, and hungry. People in other countries are ducking and hiding from bombs and bullets, and the rest of the world looks at us with fear and loathing.
But today's rant isn't about today or even Republicans. We have to go back again about 40 years.
Benjamin Spock... His book, "The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care," was published in nineteen forty-six. The book gave advice to parents of babies and young children. The first lines of the book are famous. Doctor Spock wrote: "Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do". He also believed that showing love to babies by hugging and kissing them would make them happier and more secure.
!n nineteen fifty-seven the second version of the book was published. He continued to make changes to "Baby and Child Care" throughout his life. In all, there have been seven versions of the book.
The good Doctor should have stopped making changes to his book at about change 5.
I think one morning early in 1960 the good doctor got up feeling particularly magnanimous toward children and began to tell parents that spanking their children would devastate their child's little ego and squelch the kids creative development. The good doctor DID reverse himself on the spanking issue, but by then it was too late.
The Government had taken the NO SPANKING thing to heart and began teaching the young ins to squeal on their parents if they got their butts warmed at home.
Before we go any farther, I do not believe in beating children. I do believe that the no spanking rule has caused more child abuse than spanking ever has, and has hurt more families and ruined more perfectly good kids than a few pops on the butt ever did.
There are some things that are just spanking offences! For example, going to the car after shopping, mom's arms are full of bags her purse, and a toddler. She sets the child down to get her keys, tells the kid to stay put, looks away for a second, and the little rug rat makes a dash out into a busy parking lot.
That is, by God, a spanking offence! Better to teach that lesson right now, real quick, with a smarting , stinging, smack on the ass, or even two or three, along with much noise from the mom, so the kid KNOWS that dashing out into traffic is the WRONG thing to do. Better a red butt than a dead kid. It's immediate, it's painful, and the child will remember.
Children need boundaries. The world is a dangerous place for kids. Kids get absolutely rotten if they aren't taught those lessons about boundaries. Ya can't get into anyone's purse for example. That's a NO-NO!
I tried to tell a friend about not letting her kid get into her purse, "pop his butt", I said. As she was cleaning up the brand new tube of lipstick he has smeared into the carpet, the couch, the chair, and all over the TV. But no, she didn't believe in spanking. "But you have to set limits and enforce those limits," I said.
Two weeks after our visit, she phoned me from the hospital, her son, her sweet baby boy, had gotten into gram mas purse, and her heart medication was in there. The three year old lived, by God's grace, and my friend changed her thinking on the no spanking rule. Sometimes a smack on the butt is worth a thousand words. and remember you can NOT reason with a child under five.
Then there is the kid who, for what ever reason, benign neglect, fear of the state, or just laziness, the parents never taught him how to behave. No body likes the kid, he gets in trouble at daycare, in the neighborhood, at school, has no respect, and one day he does something stupid and one of his parents loses it and beats the hell out of him.
The abuse started because the parent didn't spank his little pink bottom way back when. This untrained, willful, child is the same kid you see on the streets, dropped out of school, He had no rules, no one in forced rules, and now the family doesn't want him and the cops and courts have to deal with him.
Kids beg to be spanked. They are saying, do you love me enough to make me stop? MAKE ME STOP? Make me, are the key words here.
I believe the label of ADD and ADHD that is slapped on kids when they hit school is the affect of parents and care givers not making kids behave. How can you expect a six year old to sit still and listen, if he's never been taught to do so? It's as if I handed you some yarn and knitting needles and said, "knit a sweater." but no one ever taught you how to knit. How frustrated would you be if a sweater was expected of you by every one you knew?
Teaching a child to listen is one of the most important things a little kid has to learn. If the kid doesn't listen to you when you say don't stand up in the highchair, and you let him loose before he falls out and breaks his neck, because you don't want to fight with him about it, you teach him he doesn't have to listen, or mind, or learn anything.
A kids mind grows at a predictable rate, more or less. There are windows of opportunity to teach lessons. It starts as soon as a baby begins to not listen when you say don't. "Don't try to crawl away from me when I'm changing your poopy bottom.
Don't go in the street. Don't hit your sister with a hammer. Don't play with matches. Don't flush the kitty in the toilet. and on, and on.
Today we have a whole second and in some places third generation of parents who are scared to spank their kids because the state can step in and arrest them for it.
We have a bunch of kids who are confused, lost, without the tools to live well in this society, still looking for someone to show them how to behave.
Along with that goes gangs, where the kids get beat up to get in, and shot if they don't do right by the gang. Drive by shootings, drugged out, lost kids, kids making more kids, none of them being taught anything, in trouble and coping a plea of ADD and ADHD as a defence when they get caught breaking the rules.
I spanked my kids. I trusted my instincts to spank them when they needed it. Like a mother bear, I gave them a swat to get their attention and keep them safe. I loved them up afterward and told them how sorry I was but that there are rules that children must know so that they live to grow up to be decent people.
Doctor spock must be spinning in his grave.
But today's rant isn't about today or even Republicans. We have to go back again about 40 years.
Benjamin Spock... His book, "The Common Sense Book of Baby and Child Care," was published in nineteen forty-six. The book gave advice to parents of babies and young children. The first lines of the book are famous. Doctor Spock wrote: "Trust yourself. You know more than you think you do". He also believed that showing love to babies by hugging and kissing them would make them happier and more secure.
!n nineteen fifty-seven the second version of the book was published. He continued to make changes to "Baby and Child Care" throughout his life. In all, there have been seven versions of the book.
The good Doctor should have stopped making changes to his book at about change 5.
I think one morning early in 1960 the good doctor got up feeling particularly magnanimous toward children and began to tell parents that spanking their children would devastate their child's little ego and squelch the kids creative development. The good doctor DID reverse himself on the spanking issue, but by then it was too late.
The Government had taken the NO SPANKING thing to heart and began teaching the young ins to squeal on their parents if they got their butts warmed at home.
Before we go any farther, I do not believe in beating children. I do believe that the no spanking rule has caused more child abuse than spanking ever has, and has hurt more families and ruined more perfectly good kids than a few pops on the butt ever did.
There are some things that are just spanking offences! For example, going to the car after shopping, mom's arms are full of bags her purse, and a toddler. She sets the child down to get her keys, tells the kid to stay put, looks away for a second, and the little rug rat makes a dash out into a busy parking lot.
That is, by God, a spanking offence! Better to teach that lesson right now, real quick, with a smarting , stinging, smack on the ass, or even two or three, along with much noise from the mom, so the kid KNOWS that dashing out into traffic is the WRONG thing to do. Better a red butt than a dead kid. It's immediate, it's painful, and the child will remember.
Children need boundaries. The world is a dangerous place for kids. Kids get absolutely rotten if they aren't taught those lessons about boundaries. Ya can't get into anyone's purse for example. That's a NO-NO!
I tried to tell a friend about not letting her kid get into her purse, "pop his butt", I said. As she was cleaning up the brand new tube of lipstick he has smeared into the carpet, the couch, the chair, and all over the TV. But no, she didn't believe in spanking. "But you have to set limits and enforce those limits," I said.
Two weeks after our visit, she phoned me from the hospital, her son, her sweet baby boy, had gotten into gram mas purse, and her heart medication was in there. The three year old lived, by God's grace, and my friend changed her thinking on the no spanking rule. Sometimes a smack on the butt is worth a thousand words. and remember you can NOT reason with a child under five.
Then there is the kid who, for what ever reason, benign neglect, fear of the state, or just laziness, the parents never taught him how to behave. No body likes the kid, he gets in trouble at daycare, in the neighborhood, at school, has no respect, and one day he does something stupid and one of his parents loses it and beats the hell out of him.
The abuse started because the parent didn't spank his little pink bottom way back when. This untrained, willful, child is the same kid you see on the streets, dropped out of school, He had no rules, no one in forced rules, and now the family doesn't want him and the cops and courts have to deal with him.
Kids beg to be spanked. They are saying, do you love me enough to make me stop? MAKE ME STOP? Make me, are the key words here.
I believe the label of ADD and ADHD that is slapped on kids when they hit school is the affect of parents and care givers not making kids behave. How can you expect a six year old to sit still and listen, if he's never been taught to do so? It's as if I handed you some yarn and knitting needles and said, "knit a sweater." but no one ever taught you how to knit. How frustrated would you be if a sweater was expected of you by every one you knew?
Teaching a child to listen is one of the most important things a little kid has to learn. If the kid doesn't listen to you when you say don't stand up in the highchair, and you let him loose before he falls out and breaks his neck, because you don't want to fight with him about it, you teach him he doesn't have to listen, or mind, or learn anything.
A kids mind grows at a predictable rate, more or less. There are windows of opportunity to teach lessons. It starts as soon as a baby begins to not listen when you say don't. "Don't try to crawl away from me when I'm changing your poopy bottom.
Don't go in the street. Don't hit your sister with a hammer. Don't play with matches. Don't flush the kitty in the toilet. and on, and on.
Today we have a whole second and in some places third generation of parents who are scared to spank their kids because the state can step in and arrest them for it.
We have a bunch of kids who are confused, lost, without the tools to live well in this society, still looking for someone to show them how to behave.
Along with that goes gangs, where the kids get beat up to get in, and shot if they don't do right by the gang. Drive by shootings, drugged out, lost kids, kids making more kids, none of them being taught anything, in trouble and coping a plea of ADD and ADHD as a defence when they get caught breaking the rules.
I spanked my kids. I trusted my instincts to spank them when they needed it. Like a mother bear, I gave them a swat to get their attention and keep them safe. I loved them up afterward and told them how sorry I was but that there are rules that children must know so that they live to grow up to be decent people.
Doctor spock must be spinning in his grave.
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