Forty some years ago, "Life", or "Look", magazine did a article on the Chinese government putting all the infants and toddlers into day care centers so that the chinese women could work.

Americans gasped a collective gasp of horror. People talked about it all summer. They had a longer attention span then.

The pictures in "Look", or "Life", showed rows of little kids all dressed alike, singing. Little ones doing group dancing. Babies on mats being read to. All well behaved pictures of well behaved kidlets. Were the kids all so clean and cute for the photographer?

Did they scatter and start getting into things, taking toys away from each other, bite, fight, and wail at the injustice of not being with mommy? After lunch were they grubby and cranky as hell for a nap? Did the caregivers keep their bottoms clean and dry, rock and comfort the ones who were teething? Who knows?

I think that those kids did get a jump start on learning. If the parents could afford to pay for school the kids had to learn, because failing meant going back to the rice fields.Those kids learned to adjust and to conform early on.

While I don't believe in everyone being the same as everyone else, there are some things that one must conform to. The rules of driving for example. All sorts of things can happen if one doesn't conform to driving on the side of the road one belongs on, and for stopping and yielding the right of way, for drinking and driving, none of them are good.

What about the basic rules of living and having a family?

See, I feel strongly that once you buy food, there are three places it belongs, regardless of your life style. In the cupboard/fridge, in your belly, or in the garbage. Right?

Food does not belong under the furniture, ground into the carpet, or pushed between the cushions of the couch. Old food does not belong on stacks of dirty dishes, scattered on every flat surface in the kitchen, untill it gets green and fuzzy. Am I wromg?

Clothing belongs in drawers, on the body, or in the laundry. Right? Clothes do not belong a foot deep on the bedroom floor, along with scraps of paper, more of the above mentioned moldy food, shoes, toys, trash, and what ever else might have been dropped. Am I wrong?

If you don't want to have children, and you don't want to take care of children, Then shouldn't you just not have any?

If you do have a kid and you keep it, Then it becomes your responsability to feed it, keep it clean, dressed, and keep the space it lives in clean and safe.

You must conform to barest minim of decent child and home care within the socity you belong to. Am I wrong?

I wouldn't be critical of the woman in Sudan for having kids with dirty hands. God knows how far she has to walk to get water, She's lucky to have kept her babies alive under the conditions she must live. Her choices and options are few and far between.

However there's no excuse for a woman who was born and raised(?) in The United States.

Being poor isn't an excuse for not keeping home and kids clean. It costs nothing to pick up after yourself and kids. If you can buy shampoo and soap for yourself, you can use it on the kids. If you keep your own clothes clean, you can do laundry for the kids. If you fucking eat...... You feed your kids first.

If you arn't working 15 hours a day, there's no excuse for dirty floors, scuzy bathrooms, filth and rat shit on the counters and in the corners of the kitchen.

Birds don't even shit in their nests.

If you are working 15 hours a day then you clean your space on your days off.